What to do when someone dies
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What Do I Need to Do When Someone Dies?
Whether it was sudden, expected after a long-term illness, or from natural causes, it’s tough to prepare yourself for the way you will feel when you lose a relative. When someone dies, there are specific processes and procedures that you need to follow. The procedures change somewhat depending on the circumstances.
Obtain the Medical Certificate
As soon as you can, you need to obtain a medical certificate. This is an essential step to starting the entire process.
You should be able to get a hold of the medical certificate immediately. This will only be an issue if there is a coroner’s inquest. A coroner’s inquest is a legal inquiry into an unknown or unnatural cause of death.
If your relative died in hospital, the hospital will give you the medical certificate. If they died at home, you should call their GP. A medical certificate doesn’t cost anything but is one of the first things you need to address.
Register the Death
- Full name, address, date of birth, and place of birth of the person who died
- Where and when the person died
- Their address
- Most recent occupation
- If they were receiving any benefits or state pension
- Name, occupation and date of birth of their spouse
- Marriage certificate
- Birth certificate
- Driving licence
- Passport
- NHS medical number or card
- A green GRO21 certificate which allows burial and cremation
- A certificate of Registration of Death (form BD8). You should fill out and return this form. The BD8 informs every department that uses the National Insurance number of the death.
- A death certificate, which you will need to buy. You need the certificate to deal with any money or property left over by your family member. If you need to, you can purchase extra certificates. If you’re making claims against pensions, savings and so on, it’s advisable to buy additional copies. Some organisations don’t always accept photocopies.
Who to Inform?
When someone dies, it can often feel like a juggling act. Your to-do list feels never-ending. Usually, you’re making calls and planning the funeral at the same time. Who do you tell first?
- Friends and family
- Employer
- Funeral director
- Home care
- Health professionals
- Mortgage provider/landlord
- Solicitor
- Utilities: broadband, TV, water, electricity, gas
- Financial organisations: banks and building societies, credit cards, insurance, accountants
- Pension providers
You will also need to update government organisations. The government provides a Tell Us Once service. Tell us Once lets you report a death to most government organisations at one time.
When you register the death, you can find out if this service is available in your area through your registrar.
If the service is available, they will give you a phone number to call and a unique reference number to use online or by phone.
- HM Revenue and Customs (HMRC)
- Department for Work and Pensions (DWP)
- Passport Office
- Driver and Vehicle Licensing Agency (DVLA)
- Local council
- Veterans UK
Arrange the Funeral
Generally, funerals take place one to two weeks after someone dies. But if you need more time, that can also be arranged. Depending on religious beliefs, the timeframe between death and funeral can be much stricter. With the help of a good funeral director, they can advise you on the best thing to do.
Before arranging the funeral, check your loved one’s will to see if they made a funeral plan. They may already know what they want and have left clear instructions. A funeral plan can be helpful in arranging the funeral they wanted.
Many people choose to use funeral directors during this very stressful time. The funeral director helps plan the ceremony, deals with the paperwork, looks after the body until the day of the funeral and makes sure everything happens at the right time at the right place.
When choosing a funeral director, you should choose someone with whom you feel comfortable. Whether you have something in mind or you want them to take the lead, they will be able to discuss the options with you. It’s important to note that whoever signs the papers at the funeral director’s is also responsible for paying the bill.
When making funeral arrangements, here are a few things to consider:
- Place and time of the funeral
- Cost
- Type of service
- Burial or cremation
- Invitations
- Flowers
- Charity donations
- Where the body will rest until the funeral
Estate Administration and Probate
The executor of the will has to decide whether to hire a probate specialist or take on the administration task themselves. You can save money by doing it yourself, but it can be quite a big task to take on at an already delicate time. It is down to the executor or administrator to decide how they will handle the probate process. You have the option to hire a professional or undertake the administration yourself.
It can take a little longer, but you can still sort out the estate. If you or another family member are willing to take on the task, you can apply for a grant of letters of administration. The letter of administration makes you the administrator of the state, allowing you to value assets, pay any debts and distribute the estate.
You don’t need to deal with the will, money and estate straight away. Sorting out an estate can feel complicated, whether there’s a will or not. Depending on whether there is a pre-existing will, the process can differ.
Sorting out the estate means getting probate and distributing everything. Probate is a legal document that allows the executor of the will to sort out the estate as instructed in the will. The executor of the will is legally responsible for identifying and managing the assets and distributing them to inheritors. When a person leaves a will, usually they choose an executor. This is normally a friend or relative, but sometimes it can be a solicitor.
Other things to do
In the weeks following the death of a family member, there are several things you need to do to keep moving the process along.
You will need to return the person’s passport and driving licence to the HM Passport Office and DVLA.
If the person who died was a Blue Badge holder, the badge will need to be returned to the Blue Badge Unit. Surviving relatives may also need to make a new will.
For example, surviving spouses may need to change their will.
- Redirect post
- Inform the dentist and optician
- Cancel subscriptions
- Close online accounts
- Register with the Bereavement Register and Deceased Preference Service (to remove the person’s name from databases and mailing lists)
- Contact clubs, trade unions, and associations
- Inform social groups, church or place of worship
- Ensure you save any posts or photos you want
- To close the account you need proof of death (copy of death certificate)
- Details of the person who died
- Proof of your identity and relationship to the account holder (spouse, child)
The death of a loved one can feel overwhelming. If you need extra support, contact your family doctor. Several organisations in the UK offer help and support during this time of grief, such as:
BereavementUK – provide 24/7 support and
information 365 days a year
Cruse Bereavement Care – offer support, advice
and information when someone dies
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